Sex is fucked period by the Abrahmic belief systems. As much as the early Jewish-Christians (that's what they were) sought to put women in line with their Eve-Madonna cast, they themselves didn't have a set system with a "history" until Constantine legalized Christianity (because they wormed themselves into politics preying on an empire that was going to war with itself- good timing!) and the Nicene Council first convened to establish that the Holy Spirit was a divine triumvirate, establish saints to replace the pagan gods that were still present in homes and temples that they were well into destroying or converting to churches (the hagiography is sketchy because a good number of the early saints were fictional as in a national personification- ex. St. Anatolia-, a converted pagan god/noble, a complete fiction that was based off a fairy tale- ex. child St. Dymphna-, a martyr or martyrs, and fictional martyrs, or a combination of all the above), and the constant editing of scripture. Not to mention keep the holy texts in Latin to ensure an illiterate public who don't speak Latin or speak the evolving Latin into the Romance languages (for instance) will question anything. And of course censor all other books or destroy them. So what did the first Christians believe? Hard to say, they followed different teachings from different people, which sort of mirrors the 28,000 established denominations of the present day. Oh yeah, and if you believe that rape only happens in men's prisons (like the media LOVES to portray), and not in women's, you've got a whole other thing coming!
I should also add that the fictional St. Peter abhored all sex. He believed marriage was only an excuse to sex because people couldn't control themselves enough to seek rapture in prayer and meditation. He seemed to have no problem with the human species dying out because "heaven" was a more desirable place. Despite that I think he would have fallen over himself for St. Theresa of Avila. Although I believe she was an epileptic or was violently masturbating to attain her "holy visions".
Although I don't disagree with you persay, you also have to consider that it's nearly impossible to get a woman convicted of rape. Meanwhile, it can ruin a man's life. There are downsides for both genders, and it pisses me off when people don't acknowledge the problems on both sides.
I was raised with this worldview. My family was super-conservative (no TV, ankle-length skirts, braids to my waist type of conservative) and I was taught that men are only interested in sex with me. I had to hide my body carefully under baggy clothes or I might cause them to sin. I wasn't supposed to even date because I might be tempted to give into his predatory desires and, once he had deflowered me, he would leave me because he had gotten all he wanted. In addition, losing my virginity would mean that I would have less value to a future husband because "part of me would be missing."
Of course this gave me a horribly skewed idea of men and I felt agonizingly guilty when I even kissed my first boyfriend, much less let him touch me or anything else. I was mortified by my own body. To top it all, I was left in bewildered denial of my sexuality (I'm a lesbian) because I thought my lack of attraction to men was simply an indicator of how holy I was. Finding my boyfriend's sexual interest in me disgusting was a GOOD thing to my mind. All of this cognitive dissonance was very harmful and, in retrospect, completely absurd!
I just want to add some support to what you're saying. These sorts of mindsets aren't just offensive... they are measurably HARMFUL to women like me. I'm so glad that I've been freed from that oppressive mindset and I can say I am so much more comfortable with myself now!
Good on you, that view is as insulting to women as it is to men and it needs to die and go away. I especially can't stand hearing it from so called "feminists" that hurt the movement every day by claiming the same title as women who actually understand what it means to fight for equal rights and opportunities.