To be completely honest every time I read something that is so against spanking it gets me angry. Spanking is not child abuse. It never was and never will be; however, beating a child senseless in the name of "discipline" is child abuse. I was abused. The difference? I watched my mother and brother get beaten regularly and was beaten myself when I did nothing wrong.
Thank you. Now I'm going back to my corner of the world that makes sense.
*Approaches 2 years later in a black hooded robe* I like a place that makes sense. Might I join you? If you permit it, I must ask, how many other people are in this corner of the world? Are we alone here? I hope that is not the case.
I'm sorry that you had to go through such horrendous abuse. However I disagree. I'm pretty sure that every abusers would have some sort of rationalizations - that doesn't make any less of an abuse. I'm amazed that people are not even admitting the possibility of it being abuse, they take it for granted that kids can't be raised without spanking. I agree, it's not the same level as your experience for instance, but I don't think that makes it any more justified.
I... Don't completely agree. This person makes it sound like that, in all cases, when you touch your child while angry, it is automatically child abuse. No. Children sometimes do bad things. It is when they repeat those bad things, I will take bullying as an example, is when you really do need to teach them something about what they are doing to that other person, a whole 'taste of your own medicine' sort of thing. This will not make you love your child any less. They aren't automatically going to know how to do things, and even if you tell them, they can still be horribly curious. This, however, does not mean they should be stifled, they need to form their own opinions. All you can do is teach them right from wrong the best you can. Now, child abuse, however, is striking a child from pure anger or without reason. It can also take the form of denying the child the only thing they may actually own; opinion. ...Just needed to clear that up.
And spanking child is NOT necessary to teach them right from wrong. Neither does spanking guarantee that they'd refrain from such acts, that might well scare them into not being open with the parents. I can't believe this is still being justified in the name of "discipline".